After moving to Seattle I accepted a few co-worker friend requests, most likely because I was new and too nervous not to. But I soon determined that I was going to keep work life more separate from personal life than I had at my last job and made the decision to accept no more.
I only had to decline a few requests for the first 2.5 years (Question: Should I be asking myself why more co-workers didn't want to be FB friends with me? Answer: I don't care.) It just wasn't an issue.
Until I switched clients.
The friend requests came rolling in and I panicked. I didn't decline them but I didn't accept them. They just sat there. And that seemed to be working.
Until one day I got called out.
You see, apparently if someone is awaiting acceptance of a friend request certain actions show up in each other's newsfeeds. For example, changing a profile picture. And I had just changed my profile picture, which showed up in the newsfeed of the co-worker awaiting acceptance, which drew her attention to the fact that I had never accepted her request.
Busted.
"So, why do you hate me?", she randomly called out over the cubicle wall.
"Yeah...not really sure what you're talking about.", I replied.
"You won't accept my Facebook friend request, so clearly you must hate me."
And since then my FB rule as become a "thing".
Today I was sent this and had the following IM conversation:
Me: If I had access to your wall, I would post this there.
Look, I just want to update my status in peace. Is that so wrong?
4 comments:
I find it amusing how FB has become so standard in the world... I have declined people and removed people and been called out, and I always find it amusing.
In fact, I had a co-worker who after she left the company I removed her from my friend list and she asked another co-worker about it, who than asked me. I think for some it's awkward, but I stand by my decisions.
If your self-esteem follows closely to the number of friends you have on FB you have bigger problems than I can help you with.
just for this post, i am totally now friend requesting you! i figured i should anyway because even though i've only met you a couple of times in person, i sure like you.
and i figure, let the chips fall where they may. :)
p.s. it's like we're FB friends already...we watched felicity reruns on the same weekend! ben....sigh.
That is my rule too...for full timers at least. I have added students employees.
i guess it has come down to creating a whole other FB account of bland, blah, non updating status' for co-workers to not feel left out.
no? they can get over it.
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